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  • keya Collins

Can l, first, say that I Love you?! As you lay next to me, I think of how God has blessed me with you. I think about how handsome of a young man you are and you’ll grow to be. I think of the challenges life will hand you, just because you are a young black man. Will you be able to handle them? Will you ask for help when your back is against the wall? I know that your dad and I are doing our best with raising you, but I often wonder if we’re doing enough: if it will be enough to get you through life. I often wonder if you will go to college; if you will continue with sports; if you will love me and your father as much, when you get older. One thing is for sure, I never want you to quit! Keep trying until you are satisfied and always know that we are here for you. Always know that our door is open for you. Always know that being a good person will take you further than being a bad, mean, or negative person. Yes, we have spoken college into your future, but if being an entrepreneur is your desire; we’re behind you. Your peers may try to persuade you or pressure you one day, but being your own person is the way to be! Don’t be so hard on yourself, but trust that God will show you the way. Also remember, girls will come and go, but your Mama will always be here.

There will be more days that I piss you off than days that I make you happy, but please know that I always have your best interest. There will be days you’ll prefer to talk to your dad and not me, but know that I’ll never take it personally. I will always be your punching bag, even when I don’t agree with your choices. Never take your talents lightly. I’m your biggest fan, but I will always correct when you’re wrong. Don’t take it personally, but understand that your biggest doubters are also your fans (read that again). I know it sounds weird, but just trust me on this. Even the biggest legends have doubters ( insert Kobe’s I hate you commercial). Please know that when you’re up, they love you and when you’re down, they hate you or they will be silent (ask your dad).

I know I have said a lot; some things you will understand and some things won’t become clear, until you’re older. That is okay because your dad and I will be there every step of the way, to remind you of how great you are!! History Cruz Collins, I love you and you are the Best! Never forget that!


Love,

Mommy


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  • keya Collins

“I’m sooo glad, I went to TSU,” is our theme song. The screeching of tennis shoes on a hardwood gym floor has been our life for 10 plus years. It all started with my husband being a G.A. (Graduate Assistant) at The Tennessee State University (TSU). My nickname to him was room 155, because he did not know me. Coach Penny would come out the coaches office everyday around the time I had class, to sneakily see me. I would stand, waiting for class to start paying no attention. Our first real encounter was at a friend’s birthday dinner and I thought he was kinda funny. The day after the dinner, we ran into each other shopping and that was when we exchanged numbers. We would occasionally speak on the phone, but it was nothing serious; until one day, he had built up enough courage to ask me to lunch (side note: he didn’t eat any of his food). From there, we of course, dated a couple of years and the rest was History (our son’s name). Room 155 is where it all began, and that room now sits across from my husband’s Head Coaching office at The Tennessee State University where our son runs around on the court.

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  • keya Collins

Marriage brought out a different type of person I never knew was their. It was my “Super Power,” marriage brought out a creative, patient, confident, and gracious wife and mother. It was the thing I never knew I needed. Understand being married is not every woman’s super power. It does not make you non marriage material and it doesn’t define you as a wife. Marriage brought out a more confident wife and mother in me.

Now I didn’t always think this way about marriage, specifically my marriage. Don’t get me wrong I knew I was marrying a coach, but what I didn’t know was how intense the ride was going to be. Growing up as girls we are taught this fairy tale about marriage. You’ll find a husband, have a house, kids, both or one working parent, and you’ll be in the house to eat dinner together at a designated time. Well we all grow up and figure out this is far from the truth. I didn’t know my husband would be gone so often, between road games, practices, and recruiting. I felt alone most times, and figured out I would be doing parenting alone a lot of times. Is this what I wanted out of life? This surely couldn’t go on forever.

I quickly figured out what was going to make my marriage successful and that was to get involved. In order to achieve happiness I had to figure out my own happiness. It wasn’t up to my husband, he was fulfilling his dream. And living in his happiness. But, how was I to do the same? How could I get this happiness? Have this type of Joy? And why was he so damn happy being away from us? I could not figure it out! I shortly discovered who I was as a mother and as a wife. I began getting involved instead of distancing myself, talking to my husband about field trips for our son, which sports to get him involved in, his day, and much more. I found a whole different person. Instead of waiting for my husband to tell me things I would ask questions, I began creating things for my son and I to do on trips, we traveled more, went to the gym, and to my husband’s office. Please understand my husband wanted us around and never displayed being uncomfortable when we were around. He was alway inviting and wanted us to enjoy his career as much as he did. I was so caught up in thinking I was giving up my own identity for his that I would limit myself to being around. In discovering this about our new life. I was able to start embracing what was our new normal. And this ladies is when I realized that marriage gave me a strength that became my “Super Power.”

But together we got plenty power

Nothing I know can break us down

They can't break us down....... Super Power

-Beyoncé


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